Best Of Miss Manners: I Don’t Like Being Invited To Street Fairs, Children’s Parties Or Coffee Dates
Miss Manners answers a question about being invited to events, such as street fairs, that you’d rather not attend
Judith Martin, known as Miss Manners, answers a question about being invited to events, such as street fairs, that you’d rather not attend.Canva
DEAR MISS MANNERS: On occasion, friends invite me to participate in activities I simply do not enjoy. Examples include crowded street fairs, exuberant parties for small children, coffee dates at noisy cafes, and “get better acquainted” games.
I’m at a loss for polite refusals that let the friend know that I like them, but not the activity they’ve invited me to. Please give me a few gentle replies.
GENTLE READER: Although you are not required to like everything your friends like, Miss Manners agrees that expressing your distaste is best kept to a minimum. This is no doubt what gave rise to the overuse of the awkward “I’m not a huge fan of ...” prefix.
Some of these activities require no explanation at all when you decline, at least not for the first invitation -- street fairs, for example. Party games sprung on you at the door are more challenging, though you can still say you prefer to sit this one out, but would enjoy watching.
Repeat invitations can be greeted with an apologetic confession that you are not good at that particular activity -- followed by a suggested alternative for another day.
(Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.Missmanners.Com; to her email, dearmissmanners@gmail.Com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)
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